When it comes to etiquette, no name is more famous than Emily Post. The author, who transformed from divorced housewife to the ultimate social authority, founded an entire organization dedicated to manners and literally wrote the book on how to behave. Copies of Etiquette (first published in 1922 and currently in its 19th edition) have been considered household manuals for generations of women, often passed on from mother to daughter and beyond.
Covering topics including entertaining, gift giving, tipping, and the art of conversation, Etiquette has it all – except for how to navigate the world of legal cannabis.
Enter Higher Etiquette: a Guide to the World of Cannabis, from Dispensaries to Dinner Parties, a new book from the great-great-granddaughter of Emily Post, Lizzie Post. At a recent talk and book signing at EVB in Oakland, California, Lizzie, along with Nikki Lastreto of Swami Select Cannabis, discussed how our society has evolved to appreciate and accept marijuana as another part of life – one to be shared, enjoyed, and celebrated.
Speaking to a room packed with both women and men from millennials to septuagenarians, Post and Lastreto, led by industry pioneer and educator Elise McRoberts (who was also interviewed for Post’s book), shared a joint while discussing the culture shift surrounding cannabis – and how the Queen of Decorum herself would feel about the wave of legalization currently spreading across the globe.
“Emily fought actively against prohibition, and while she abhorred smoke, she was against government interference in citizen’s personal lives,” Post told the crowd. She noted the worlds of cannabis and etiquette are more alike than one may think as they both embrace compassion, inclusivity, and most importantly, respect.
Lastreto, a self-proclaimed flower child who came of age in the 1960s in Northern California, told the group her grandmother’s original copy of Etiquette was as good as law in her home growing up. She said she could feel the spirit of the author roaming throughout the hazy room.
“Emily Post was there with us!” Lastreto exclaimed. “For me, as someone who grew up with (her) words as sacrosanct advice, this was a perfect blend of old and new ideals and another way to shed the negative stigma of cannabis.”
Before and after the presentation, guests mingled while sipping cannabis-infused sparkling water. A sponsor arena featured activations from edible manufacturers, marijuana-themed jewelry artisans, and pre-roll makers. A bustling dab station courtesy of Feeling Frosty Hash dished out solventless samples via Puffco Peaks. The energy was warm and inviting as attendees had the chance to visit with Post and learn more about female-friendly brands. Swag bags including sponsor samples and copies of Higher Etiquette were given to each person.
“I was trying to create more than just a panel discussion but have it be an educational social,” explains hostess McRoberts. “I wanted to create a space where people could come learn but then also become more familiar with cannabis.”
Based on the feedback from those in the crowd, McRoberts both met and exceeded her goals.
“Lizzie maintains the spirit of the Emily Post institute with a dash of modern woman and cannabis spirit – a perfect combo,” Lastreto adds. “The whole evening was superbly designed by Elise – and it felt like everyone was practicing excellent etiquette!”
Here are some of Post’s tips for maintaining perfect cannabis practices:
On sharing vape pens: “It’s considerate to wipe the mouthpiece before handing it to someone.”
On hosting large group smoking sessions: “While hosts shouldn’t feel they have to go out of their way, being able to provide personal smoking devices is preferrable.”
On visiting dispensaries: “Don’t touch the flower. Hands have germs and oils on them, and the pressure on the nuggets themselves can be described as ‘wear and tear.’ Most dispensaries have tongs to handle the actual product.”
Tell us – would you share cannabis with your mother or daughter?